Fisting 101: 4 Tips for Pleasurable Success

Fisting is often an incredibly intimate experience between sexual partners. One of several sources of pleasure from fisting is rooted in the feeling of fullness (be it anal or vaginal.) Listed below are four tips for trying fisting with your lover:

Take it slow and talk about it

As with any particularly intensive sexual contact, be it BDSM, fisting, use of larger than average toys, or anything beyond, partners should talk about the act and their personal limits with respect to the act, not just before, but during and after as well.

Taking the preparation slowly allows your partner to stretch out and prepare for your full fist. Bear in mind, you'll be inserting up to four fingers, then a thumb to form a bill-shaped hand, and easing your hand past the knuckles (the hardest part). Latex or other gloves are recommended to prevent sharp nails, rough skin, or other potential discomforts from breaking the mood.

Use plenty of lube (but avoid numbing lube)

When fisting, be sure to lube up frequently. This will help prevent the fistee from getting hurt due to friction. Be aware of which lube you reach for, however, numbing lube can impair your ability to feel painful sensations which are indicative of present physical limitations.

You'll want a good, slippery lube which is not prone to gelling or becoming sticky.

Set aside a couple of hours to work up to it

Fisting is often a very intimate and bonding (s)experience, don't rush it. Taking your time is vital to setting the mood between you and your partner. Time is also the key factor in stretching out and getting ready for penetration.

Don't be afraid to stop, stretching can take time (a period of days and repeated uses)

Stretching can be a painful process, depending on how large your partner's hand (or fist shaped toy) is. If it feels like your partner would tear you in half by continuing to go deeper, but isn't all the way in yet, stop. Stretching can be carried out in several stages over a few days (this is normally standard if your partner has narrow hip bones, which will spread with continued effort.)

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