Communicating Sexual Fantasies

While many of us don't know how to broach the subject of sexual fantasies to our partners, sexual fantasies are nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Sexual fantasies are a very normal part of human sexuality. Studies have also revealed that partners who discuss their sexual fantasies with each other and in some circumstances act on those fantasies are not only the most sexually satisfied, but also the happiest in their relationship. You want this too, but don't quite know how to get there. Well we have some proven strategies that will help you better communicate your sexual fantasies to your partner. 

1. Discover How You Feel About Your Own Fantasies  
Before you start the conversation of sexual fantasies with your partner, you need to discover how you feel about your own fantasies. You must feel good about yourself and your desires before you put yourself in that situation of vulnerability. 

2. Go in Slow 
When you're ready to start the conversation of sexual fantasies with your partner, think vanilla. Ease them into this conversation by discussing some of your tamer sexual fantasies. This will give you the opportunity to gauge their reaction, without revealing too much too soon. Leave room to work up to your more adventurous fantasies later on.  

3. Let Your Partner Know They Matter
Sometimes sharing sexual fantasies can feel threatening to a partner. Let your partner know they play a central role in your fantasies. This will create an open dialogue and build trust between you and your partner. It is also important to validate your partner during these discussions to prevent feelings of insecurities. Reassure your partner that these fantasies will bring pleasure to both of you. 

4. Pick the Right Time
It's important to pick the right time when discussing your sexual fantasies with your partner. Bringing this up when they come home from work or are distracted is probably not the best route to choose. A good time to bring up these fantasies is when you both are already in a state of arousal. When your partner is already aroused, they will most likely be more receptive to a discussion of sexual fantasies. 

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